Many have tried to explain love. It seems to be an eternal theme that has occupied people at every stage of their history. Who can explain love without writing books about it. And I do not want to do this experiment here either. I am glad that I know today what is important in love. When you engage with someone, you are at the same time an addressee of many beautiful but also ugly things that people in interaction in their lives simply bring with it. The art lies in how to handle it.
Dealing with a partner is one thing but dealing with a relationship is another thing. What do I deliver to the two, what am I ready for both, what do I expect of both and what do I get.
When I become clear about these questions, and I perceive myself in agreement, it is nice that the two exist. If not, I have to take care of myself; not both.